It’s this that you will need to build, Jay.
What’s taking place is you feel like you’re inadequate in as well as yourself to become ladies. You really feel as you need to read certain things to say, because everything you obviously wanna mention is not sufficient. Or even you’re not even certain about what you want to state, because you’re so accustomed to wondering what you SHOULD state.
Understand this in your thoughts: there’s absolutely no “right” thing to say.